By : Ellan Dickieson, Family Service PEI
New Year- New Goals- New You. We hear it every January. I have to say that I personally have mixed emotions about the idea of New Year’s resolutions. On one side I believe that it is a good time of year to kick start, or reboot, whilst on the other side, I am quite aware that many New Year’s resolutions fail. So part of me says, why set ourselves up for failure? While the other side says, but why do we so often fail? Confusing. I know. The only answer is to come up with a plan to defy all odds.
This past year, I am proud to say that I was able to do this. I set a goal, and by the end of November I reached it. It took dedication, it took perseverance, and it took support and help from others. I would not have been able to achieve this goal on my own. So what is the magic trick you ask?
If you concentrate on the steps it takes to transform an aspiration into reality, you’ve set yourself up with a sturdy action-based goal. However, a lot of the goals that we set aren’t thoroughly thought through. They exist as concepts that we can dream about.
When we aim towards a personal target without specifying how we intend to hit it, we’re making outcome-based goals: objectives that only focus on the end product.
‘I’m going to lose ten pounds by July’ and ‘I’m going to write a novel.‘ are both outcome based-goals. It’s hard to accomplish them without a plan. With a little thought and dedication, these can turn into strong action-based goals, well on their way to being achieved!
Have you ever heard of S.M.A.R.T Goal Setting? Each letter in the acronym “S.M.A.R.T.” stands for one quality that a strong goal should have. It should be:
Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Timely.
If you have an outcome-based goal on your mind, try asking yourself the following questions:
– Have I specified exactly what I want to do and when I want it done by?
– What steps will I take to reach my goal and how will I keep track of my progress?
– Is it possible to complete my goal in the time I want to, without rushing?
– Do I truly feel that I am currently able to accomplish this goal? Is it the right time in my life to pursue this?
Once you are sure that your goal is S.M.A.R.T., you can take action whenever you’re ready! Remember to focus on how you’re going to hit your target. Accept mistakes and try not to get discouraged by failure; when you make a mistake, it means that you’re only trying new approaches, figuring things out, and moving forward. Finally, don’t forget celebrate every small achievement you make on your way to the final outcome! Stay motivated; don’t be afraid to modify your original plans. Most importantly, don’t give up.